6 Things I learned from my 20's

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In less than three months, I will be hitting the big 3-0 and boy do I feel OLD. Not literally, but just the mere fact that me, Ms. 1988 is about to be 30 is so crazy. Don't get me wrong it is most definitely a blessing to be here, and for so many reasons. 

Although I learned a lot about life growing up, it was in my 20's that I can say I learned the most. From things about life, love and relationships, family, parenting, career and friendships, my experiences have brought me so much wisdom.

 

What I learned about Life....

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Time is not what you think. I know it sounds crazy, but the funniest thing about getting older is realizing that time is everything and it also isn't. We live our lives so wrapped up in the calendar, and watches, never realizing that life just is. And because of that fact, not only does it not wait for any man/woman, it keeps rolling on. This really became glaringly clear to me the year my grandmother passed away. At the time, I just felt like time stopped, for me at least, and that life would never go on. Here I am almost 10 years later and time most definitely kept going. I made a lot of bad decisions in my 20's based off of a bad concept of time. I don't regret those decisions, because they became lessons, and overall I'm thankful I learned from them. 

What I learned about Love....

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I learned a great deal about love and relationships in my 20's. For the sake of this post though, I'll only cover one of those things. I think the biggest lesson I learned about love in 20's is that the wrong type of love will always hurt. There is no pain in love, and if you are constantly feeling pain in a relationship, then chances are it's not real love. I have seen all the memes, quotes and tweets that declare that real love means going through a bunch of stuff. If by a bunch of stuff it's things like: paying bills, changing jobs, buying a new house or having kids, then that's absolutely true. That does not include things like cheating though. I mean if it happens to you, then you have to decide for yourself if the relationship is worth continuing on. It does NOT mean, that things like that make your relationships stronger, because it doesn't. It weakens your relationship and makes YOU stronger as a person. I will say this, it doesn't weaken things forever, but that is one stain that doesn't ever erase completely. 

What I learned about family...

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Family struggles are really real. I learned that although you may have family, without a relationship, they can feel like acquaintances, or worse: strangers. I have family members that literally feel like strangers to me, and that's because of our lack of communication. Without communication, relationships die, including our relationships with our families. Can it be fixed? Sure, but it has to be mutual on both ends. You shouldn't have to chase ANYONE down to communicate with you, and that definitely includes family too. Everyone has the same hours, even if they don't have the same type of day. In that time span, communication can be forged, or neglected but that is a CHOICE.

What I learned about parenting...

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I became a mother at 18, and knew absolutely next to nothing about being a parent. My parents were the typical products of the drug era, and so I was raised by Grandparents. They did the best they could raising me and I am so thankful for that but I really didn't know how to BE a parent. These last almost 12 years has been a crazy experience, and I really truly learned a lot. The most important lesson I learned though was as a parent not only are you teaching your children but you're learning from them too. I think that being a parent taught me a lot of important lessons, and I constantly find myself sharing those things with my kids. Although I realize that I wasn't ready to be a young mother, I would not change anything, including the love I have for my kids.

What I learned about a career...

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In my teen years I was a serial employee. I cannot even began to count how many jobs I had. Then in my 20's I had one job that I kept for a really long time. Eventually I became dissatisfied there (for a million reasons) and I knew it was time for me to leave. I remember I hesitated over leaving for the longest, but I realized that jobs come and go. The type of job I held, I was replaceable. There weren't many special skills you needed to work there and anyone could do what I did. However it's not what you do but how you do it. I had other skills and talents that would help me do something that I actually wanted to do. So, I let go of my fear, and I did the one thing I thought I'd never do and leave. I absolutely don't regret it, in fact I wish I had left earlier on. Now I'm doing something I love, and I make a lot more doing it! I learned that when it's time to go, just go and have faith in yourself and your abilities to make things happen.

What I learned about friendships...

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In my 20's I learned the importance and the value of having good friends. I have had a pretty interesting life, but I can say having great friends has helped me so much. When I decided to began blogging I had this conversation with a friend and a family member. While my family member had their reservations about it, my friends were very encouraging and supportive. My family was being protective, and I appreciate that, but having encouragement was what I was looking for. When you have the support of your friends, it definitely helps to strengthen you on an emotional level. I had friendships too, where the friend always had something negative to say, and those friendships were ones I let go after some time. 

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If you're a millennial turning 30 this year, what are some things you've learned? If you're already over 30 what are things that your 20's taught you? I'd love your feedback so drop it in the comments below!