Things To Leave Behind 2017
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The end of 2017 is a few days away, and I've been thinking a lot about this year. For the most part, it has been pretty good for me. I admit, last year I pictured this year being way different. However, I can say that I'm ok with how it turned out.
I also thought about the things I didn't accomplish this year. Even though my year turned out alright, my expectations were more grandoise. I think for the most part they were pretty do-able, but they still ended up not getting done. Which made me think about the things I should have done differently. Or better. Or just did period.
Things to Leave Behind in 2017
- Unrealistic Expectations: I had so many ideas of how I wanted this year to be last year. I had listened to a million podcasts, and saved motivational quotes. I just knew I'd end this year with every single goal met. Wrong. I didn't meet every single goal, because I miscalculated the most important thing of all: time. There is a time for everything. Based on the types of goals I had made for myself, the time frame was unrealistic. However, I thought that I could handle it, and I ended up falling short of my expectations.
- Trying to Save the Hopeless: There are just some things in life, that you just can't save. Jobs. Friendships. Relationships. I've learned that if you have tried everything that you can do in a situation, sometimes the best thing to do is walk away. If walking away is something that scares you, then create an action plan to help you conquer that fear. A friend once said to me "Fear is literally doubt. It's asking yourself What If?" When you create a plan of transition, it helps you to move past that fear. Plus, you can better prepare yourself for the change.
- Making Excuses: I admit, I can be just a guilty as the next person when it comes to creating excuses. In fact, I can become so creative I amaze myself. However, I've learned that: Excuses Never Gets the Job Done. Like ever. It's important to take responsibility for your shortcomings. Saying I failed, or didn't do it, will not kill you. In fact, in most cases it will make you feel better just being honest with yourself. If you had a goal that you didn't meet this year, ask yourself honestly why it didn't happen. Then create a strategy to help you figure out ways to not make that same mistake. A good book to read that can help give you ideas is No Excuses by Brian Tracy. This book is very big on the motivational scale, and gives actionable tips too.
- Avoiding Hard Conversations: Communication is one of the basic essentials of life. There are times when it's time to have "the talk". It can be the "I need a raise or a better job" talk; the "Where do we go from here" talk; the "I heard you was talking about me behind my ba----" never mind, let's hope that's not one of your talks. I am one of those people who actually struggles through these types of conversations. However, hard these are necessary. Being unwilling to have difficult conversations can literally hold you back, from pretty much a lot. If there is an important conversation you need to have, then do it. It may be just the thing you need to move you forward to get that raise, or move to that city, or whatever change you want to implement.
- Letting your Pride Win: Pride can be a wonderful thing. It is important to have for many reasons, but it's very easy to forget it's also a big part of ego. Sometimes, we let our pride or "ego" get in the way of things for us. Situations happen to us sometimes to help grow us, but our pride gets in the way. If there is something that is trying to teach you a lesson, let go of your pride to understand what it is. The last you want to do is to keep re-living negative outcomes.